Care Bear Cares: Re-connecting with friends and family can be tough

Dear Care Bear,

I went home for Thanksgiving and, while I loved being with my family and seeing some of my high school friends, I also felt kind of detached and critical, sort of. My brother seemed like more of a jerk than usual, my parents were focused on petty details and my old friends seemed like they were trying too hard—and they were never like that before. Is it true that you can’t go home again?


Home is Where I Thought My Heart Was



As Nick says at the end of The Great Gatsby, “So we beat on, boats against the current borne back ceaselessly into the past.” Sometimes, the way we fondly remember the past doesn’t quite match up with reality. Maybe you’ve gone away to sleep-away camp before, there’s nothing like college to make you feel like you have a better perspective than everyone else—yes, I’m saying you might be too judgmental. It is important to remember that change can be bumpy for everyone. Your family will always be your family, and your old friends are worth holding onto, even if they are trying to seem cool.

Your friend,

Care Bear

If you’re dealing with a problem with classes, friends or anything else on campus, odds are someone else at Gettysburg is having a similar problem. So rather than confide in your parents or reliable best friend, why not publish your personal problems for all the world to see!? It’s like when you go up to your professor with a question, and he or she insists that you ask so the entire class can hear in case other students have the same question. My name is Caroline, and, hey!—I care! If you have a problem relating to school, friends, relationships, etc., go ahead and over-share. I will keep your identity a secret, and I might even be able to help! Email me your questions at and I will answer a different question every Monday! Help me to help you. Let’s start over-sharing.


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Author: Jennifer Kiebach

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